转；可以接受莎朗 斯通的道歉嗎？（节目预告 时事辩论会）
<SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"> <BR><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: center" align=center><SPAN><STRONG></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">明天（</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face="Times New Roman">5</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">月</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face="Times New Roman">30</FONT></SPAN></FONT><SPAN><FONT size=3>日）去凤凰卫视时事辩论会讨论“</FONT><STRONG>莎朗 斯通的道歉可否接受</STRONG></SPAN><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">”。现将一些想法写出，与感兴趣者分享。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW"><FONT face="Times New Roman">5</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">月</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW"><FONT face="Times New Roman">24</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">日，莎朗斯通在法國戛納接受香港有線電視記者採時，把汶川大地震跟西藏問題扯上關係，並說“這次發生了地震，這是不是報應</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-TW style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW">（</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW">karma, </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-TW style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW">业）</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">呢？如果你做得不夠好，然後壞事就會發生在你身上”。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">引起了全球华人的激怒和几乎所有媒体的批评。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">北京時間</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face="Times New Roman">5</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">月</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face="Times New Roman">28</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">日晚上</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">她</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">向中國人民道了歉。她在道歉信中說：“我的錯誤言行，讓中國人民感到悲傷與憤怒，我為此深感歉意。我再次強調，我願意積極參與任何關於中國地震災害的援助活動，並盡全力幫助受災的中國人民。”</SPAN><FONT face="Times New Roman"><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW"> </SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-TW style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW">多数的</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">網民</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-TW style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW">都说：</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">“我們不原諒她，我們不需要她道歉，我們可以抵制她的作品，抵制她代言的東西，但是我們應該允許她來中國，甚至允許她到四川現場。我們希望這樣的人，能接近事實真相，至於她們的道歉，我們根本不需要。”</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">不過也有網民表示，“有時候寬容比指責更為不易。寬容她比封殺她，更值得去做”；“我們不僅要在災難面前體現大國民精神，還要在世界面前顯露出大國民的氣度。那麽也就沒有必要對一個人的異見，表現出過於極端的情緒。”</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">那么，</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">莎朗斯通的道歉可以接受嗎？</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face="Times New Roman" size=3></FONT></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN><STRONG><FONT size=3>一，事件的本质</FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">这个事件的本质是什么呢？</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">首先，</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">莎朗‧斯通</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">的言论是错误的，它极大地伤害了华人的感情，违背了正常的人理。把地震说成“报应”或“天谴”，让人很难接受，让人无法对得起遇难和受灾的人们。其实，地震之类的自然灾害是个人类目前还无法解开的谜一样的东西。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">其次，华人的情感受到了极大的伤害，人类的基本价值观受到了挑战。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT size=3></FONT></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"> </SPAN></SPAN><SPAN>我们<STRONG>站在受伤的十字路口，应该往哪里走呢？</STRONG></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">首先，</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">我们</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">可以选择遗忘。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">但这太难，全球的华人甚至部分西方媒体都在谈论此事。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">第二，</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">我们也</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">可以选择忍受。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">但这更加不可能，因为中国已经不再是被帝国主义宰割的“东亚病夫”，自从言论事件发生以来，华人们多数都在抗议。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">第三，</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">我们还</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">可以选择解释。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">但无论</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">莎朗斯通</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">在西藏问题和言论上有如何的自由，她的这个关于地震的“报应”说，是无法找到合理解释的，因为受难的是平民百姓和儿童。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">现在，面对</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">莎朗斯通</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">的错误言论和华人受伤的情感，她道歉了。那么，我们可以接受吗？</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman"></FONT></STRONG></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN><STRONG><FONT size=3>二，不接受道歉的状况</FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">不接受道歉的基本状况是，我们华人仍然<STRONG>非常生气和十分愤怒</STRONG>。这种情绪将是最重要的表现。那么，这种情绪会成为我们的朋友还是敌人呢？它将带领我们作出什么样的行动呢？</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT size=3></FONT></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><SPAN><STRONG><FONT size=3>1．报复莎朗斯通</FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">我们</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">可以</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">因为生气和愤怒而</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">选择报复</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">的行动</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">这正是目前多数华人在做的事情：如对</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">莎朗斯通</SPAN><SPAN>的错误言论进行谴责、对她的作品和她代言的产品进行了抵制、对她进行谩骂，等等。据说因此好莱坞的什么大片解除了与她的片约，这对她造成了直接的伤害。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="TEXT-JUSTIFY: inter-ideograph; MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">现在她代言的</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">Dior </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">公司作了切割声明，她本人认错、道歉了并且表明愿意援助灾区。作为个人，每个人都有权利决定自己是否看她的电影、买她的影碟或</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">Dior</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">的产品。中国救灾机构也有权利决定是否接受她的援助。这一切都由个人和救灾机构根据自己的意愿来做决定。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT size=3></FONT></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN><STRONG><FONT size=3>2．心生苦毒，继续生气和愤怒</FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial">我们也可能会觉得对</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">莎朗斯通</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">的报复还不过瘾，我们也可能会发现报复她的能力极其有限，因此，我们会心中有很多愤怒、怨恨和难过的情绪，以至于在网页上、生活里找机会发泄，看谁不顺眼就对谁发泄。这样一来，我们的心中可能会生长出一种叫“</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="COLOR: #cc0033; FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial">苦毒</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial">”的情绪，长期困扰我们。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial">这</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial">是一种由他人造成的情绪，</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">在你经历过一个或多个伤害或不公平待遇很长时间之后，由于无法原谅，在你的心里会产生一种情感或精神状态，我们把它称为苦毒。苦毒不是指你偶尔所产生一种愤恨或不愉快地感觉，这种感觉是你情感世界众多种类型的情感之一，它会告诉你所发生的事情是怎么回事。当你早遇到不公平时，产生不愉快地感觉是正常和正当的。可是，如果这种感觉长时间地停留在你的心里，那就是大问题了。因此，苦毒指的是长时间的持久的停留在你内心的一种消极的情感。这种消极的情感本不是你生活中的一个部分，但是它却强迫似地进入了你的情感世界，越陷越深，甚至要控制了你的生活。苦毒可能会冷却下来，但它不会停在人的心里一成不变。逐渐地它或者变坏或者变好。不原谅的人不是在走向更深的苦毒，就会离苦毒越来越远，从而最终走向原谅。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">若我们被苦毒捆绑，那我们就可能：</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN><STRONG>第一伤害自己</STRONG>。很多时候，一件事情本来已经过去了，而我们还是老在那儿想，这么可恶的事，这么坏的人！我怎么能原谅她呢？为什么没有公道呢？为什么她不受惩罚呢？然后我在不断自己咀嚼，一次次地伤害自己，让自己受过的伤害再一次地来摧残自己。害你的人已经把你忘到九霄域外了，或者去吃喝玩乐，或者去继续害人，而根本不了解或对你的痛苦不感兴趣。而你则可能患上抑郁症</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">，甚至会自杀。当你抓紧拳头记恨所受到的伤害而不愿意放开手去原谅的时候，你紧攥的拳头也就无法去接受生活所赐予你的新的祝福。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN><STRONG>第二，孤立自己</STRONG>。不忘的另一个害处是使你上背着发臭的土豆袋，让周围的人对你由同情变成敬而远之，甚至是厌恶。因此，祥林嫂的阿毛之死不再被同情，甚至成为别人嘲笑的对象。很多亲如弟兄姊妹的人都会离开你。这就是因为每一件别人对做下的坏事就像一个土豆一样被你装进了麻袋背到了自己身上，这样你背上麻袋里的土豆越来越多，你的辛苦越来越重，而随着天气和环境的变化，你所背的土豆会发霉发臭。你不但不把它扔掉，而且还不断地打开来跟他人奇文共欣赏，臭气熏天，谁不害怕或逃之夭夭呢？所以应该扔掉这些土豆，它们已经打过你一次了，你就不要再背着了。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><SPAN><FONT size=3><STRONG>第三，丢失人际</STRONG></FONT><A name=b208166></A><A name=b208058></A><FONT size=3><STRONG><SPAN style="mso-bookmark: b208166">关系</SPAN>的润滑剂</STRONG>。原谅是人际</FONT><A name=b208167></A><A name=b208059></A><FONT size=3><SPAN style="mso-bookmark: b208167">关系</SPAN>的润滑剂。它减少磨擦，使人与人能够亲近。若你不</FONT><A name=b208126><FONT size=3>相信</FONT></A><FONT size=3>别人会原谅你，你就永远不会真正坦诚地与他人相处。一个记恨他人的人，无法与人发展深厚、持久的亲密</FONT><A name=b208168></A><A name=b208060></A><FONT size=3><SPAN style="mso-bookmark: b208168">关系</SPAN>。无论你多聪明、多能干，若你不能原谅人，你就不能发展</FONT><A name=b208054><FONT size=3>亲密的</FONT></A><A name=b208061><FONT size=3>关系</FONT></A><FONT size=3>──它会被记恨撕得支离破碎，只因你一直记恨他人。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: SimSun; mso-hansi-font-family: SimSun"><FONT size=3>甚至，若你记恨别人，你会成为孤独的人，因为你身旁的人们会带着迟疑怕受伤的态度不敢接近你，你在自己周围筑起了孤独的堡垒。友谊中若没原谅存在就不能维持下去。因为友谊要增长，要变得更亲密，就必须确知无论你做错何事，甚至一错再错，而仍然被对方所</FONT><A name=b208120><FONT size=3>爱</FONT></A><FONT size=3>，也都能得到完全地原谅。</FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: SimSun; mso-hansi-font-family: SimSun"></SPAN><FONT size=3><SPAN><STRONG>第四，陷入苦毒之中和其他害处</STRONG>。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">上面提到了因为不原谅而产生的严重苦毒后果。你可能不知不觉地处于苦毒的陷阱中，你也可能故意地记恨对方而不愿意原谅他。若是故意不原谅的话，你将面临下面的一些常见的苦果：</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你被伤害的情感没有得到医治，你的情感所要向你传递的信息没有被你真正地接受。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你的内在情感将被压迫得更厉害，包裹着这些苦毒情感的外壳将会更加坚硬和难以被打开。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你会变得越来越封闭。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你会不假思索地对一些现象进行解读。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你会把不真实的东西当成真实的东西。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你会更加喜欢论断人。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你不断地让身边的人有负罪感。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你会故作坚强，宁死不屈，不向他人请求帮助。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你对自己的认识和描述可能是不真实的。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你会自觉比别人强或自己是个受害者，殉道的意味越来越强，觉得自己牺牲了很多。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">承受压力的能力越来越弱。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">对新的伤害越来越敏感，越来越容易被伤害。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">更容易不满和抱怨，对生活的消极态度越来越强。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">朋友们都远离你。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你自己也跟别人保持距离感。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">孤独感和成为局外人的感觉越来越厉害。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">被抛弃感增加。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">无力感。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">喜乐越来越少。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">越来越难忘记消极的事情，常会因此失眠。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">身体和精神都可能生病。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">苦毒的滋味越来越浓。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你的苦毒不断地影响和污染周围的任何环境。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">- </SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">你失去了自由感。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN><STRONG><FONT size=3></FONT></STRONG></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN><STRONG><FONT size=3>三，接受道歉的状况</FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">从理论上说，我们也可以选择接受</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">莎朗斯通</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">的道歉。很多人可能决不认可这个选择，我认为原因</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">可能</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">是</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">跟多人一样，</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">我们</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">误解了原谅的真意。这可能跟你的儿时记忆及家庭教育有关，也可能是社会舆论影响了你。总之，你对原谅真意的误解，使我们必须一起来考察原谅不是什么，然后，才可能真正理解原谅是什么。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><SPAN style="mso-tab-count: 1"> </SPAN></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun">第一，原谅不是一碟非常容易解决的小菜。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">我们可以努力去原谅，但要给自己伤心和生气的时间，不要强迫自己。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">第二，原谅不表示认可错误的行为是正确的。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">原谅她，不是认可她，而是为了超越她和摆脱她给我们的伤害。</SPAN><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">第三，原谅不是要给错误行为发一张可以继续进行的许可证。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">原谅她，并不表示她可以继续伤害我们。</SPAN><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">第四，原谅是无条件和无要求的。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">即使她不道歉，我们也要原谅，因为她已经第一次伤害了我们，我们不愿意在受伤的阴影下永远成为她的俘虏。所以，我们要主动通过原谅走出这伤害。</SPAN><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">第五，原谅不是去奴役人也不是要去被奴役。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman">莎朗斯通</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">做了错事，我们原谅她，是为了免得自己继续受伤害；但我们也不盼望从“被伤害者”变成“伤害者”；我们期望她悔改，而我们则努力永远不去伤害任何人。</SPAN><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">第六，原谅不是可以强迫的。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">若你或我没有原谅的意愿和能力，别人和我们都要尊重这个事实，因为原谅是无法强迫的。</SPAN><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI">第七，原谅不能确保你的友谊和人事关系能得到恢复。</SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">原谅伤害我们的人，并不表示我们要和她继续做朋友，我们可以选择与她分离。</SPAN><SPAN lang=FI style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-ansi-language: FI; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><STRONG><FONT size=3></FONT></STRONG></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN><STRONG><FONT size=3>四，总结</FONT></STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">南韩的总统金大忠被政敌关进牢房很多年，当他成为总统时，他选择的不是报复，而是和解。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">南非总统曼德拉因为自己是黑人而被白人种族隔离主义者关进了牢房二十年左右。当他走出监狱时，他说：“我不是要去报复白人，不是要去仅仅为黑人奋斗，而是要把南非建设成为一个所有黑人和白人的美丽家园”。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">接受道歉和原谅他人的真意是：</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">摆脱苦毒的心态，让自己不要再活在痛苦之中。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">放弃报复的行为，不要把自己降格为卑鄙的人一样。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">开始新的生活，若不愿意，我们完全可以远离伤害我们的人，而且不去跟她打交道。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN">因此，原谅不仅是一种美德，更是一种力量，而且是积极的力量。</SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-INDENT: 36pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN lang=ZH-CN style="FONT-FAMILY: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%"><SPAN><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman">0530</FONT>辯題：莎朗<FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT>斯通的道歉可以接受嗎？</STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%"><SPAN><STRONG><FONT face="Times New Roman"> 2008</FONT>年<FONT face="Times New Roman">5</FONT>月<FONT face="Times New Roman">30</FONT>日中午<FONT face="Times New Roman">12</FONT>：<FONT face="Times New Roman">30</FONT>凤凰卫视资讯台时事辩论会</STRONG></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%"><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt">主持人：程鶴麟</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%"><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt">嘉</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt">賓：歐陽敬孝</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>(</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-TW style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt">觀點：不能接受</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">) </FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt">董青</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-HK style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt">黃保羅</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"><SPAN style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </SPAN>(</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=ZH-TW style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; FONT-FAMILY: PMingLiU; mso-ansi-language: EN-GB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-ascii-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-hansi-font-family: Times New Roman; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt">觀點：可以接受</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; LINE-HEIGHT: 150%; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">)</FONT></SPAN></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-SIZE: 14pt; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"></FONT></SPAN> </P></SPAN><br><br>［此帖子已被 文彪 在 2008-5-30 9:18:03 编辑过］ 沙狼此次道歉并不是真的对中国人有愧疚之意，而是怕自己代言的品牌遭。<br> <H1>不能接受沙郎斯通道歉的十大理由[拐来拐趣]</H1><SPAN>访问量 评论数 </SPAN><DIV class=clear></DIV><DIV class=article_datetime>发布于：2008-05-29 10:57</DIV><DIV id=blog_article_content><P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt" align=center><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin"><IMG src="http://blogfile.ifeng.com/uploadfiles/blog_attachment/0805/38/1278138_fe1ad5c5f1bea8c7bd18a3eef945bc7c.jpg"></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt">不能接受沙郎斯通道歉的十大理由</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face="宋体, MS Song">[</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">拐来拐趣</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face="宋体, MS Song">]</FONT></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">搞拐</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face=Cambria>/</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">文</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">理由一、她是一个艺人，一个无德的艺人，一个为了演戏而演戏的戏子，戏子的话可信度本身就不高，鬼才知道她是不是在演戏，所以，不能接受她的道歉。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">理由二、拿地震说事，地震是天灾，只要是在地球上，什么地方都能发生地震，把天灾归为报应一说，显然是有人在不停地重复过这话，以她那</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face=Cambria>250</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">的智力，肯定不清楚什么叫报应，因为她的脑海中根本就没有这个词，所以不能原谅。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">理由三、她亵渎了地震中的死难者，不论她如何解释，这点已经构成了事实，在这个关键时刻，她口出妄言，已经严重地伤害了广大公民，所以不能原谅。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">理由四、因为她的伪善，在道歉书中，老是在强调自己是如何如何的慈善，如果是一个真正善良的人，那么她就不会说出这些没脑子的话了。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">理由五、想借机炒做自己，门都没有，前段时间说傻</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face=Cambria>.B</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">要参加一个中外合拍的电影，在采访时说这话，很有炒做的嫌疑，所以不能接受她的道歉。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">理由六、鸠摩志先生到现在还搞不清自己的身份，而她却是鸠摩志的朋友，她站错了队伍，所以，不能接受她的道歉。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">理由七、口口声声说自己是个博爱的人，不知道她的爱都给了谁，反正我们没有看到，估计是给了那些嫖</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face=Cambria>.</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">客或者某些居心裹测的家伙，所以不能原谅她。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">理由八、做了婊子又开始立牌坊，最恨的就是这种人，前一天还在哪里犹如一个小丑，在那里大放撅词，一转眼就道歉，她以为咱们是橡皮泥不成？所以拒绝她那违心的道歉。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">理由九、道歉不实诚，别人道歉都会公开，亲自出面来挽回自己的过错，而她却指使经济人出面，不知道她是何居心，所以拒绝道歉。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">理由十、她已经严重伤害了中国同胞，并不能说一句道歉话就可以化解，虽然我们中华民族有博大的胸怀，但是一次又一次地原谅这些低等动物的过错，换句话说，是可忍孰不可忍，也该杀只鸡给那群猴子看看了，所以，拒绝她的道歉。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face=Cambria size=3></FONT></SPAN> </P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">原因</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"><FONT face=Cambria>:</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin">如果真道歉，渠道很多。但莎朗·斯通一是“通过经纪人”，二是“向其代言的品牌公司发了一封致歉信”。沙狼此次道歉并不是真的对中国人有愧疚之意，而是怕自己代言的品牌遭。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></FONT></P><P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 10pt"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 宋体; mso-fareast-font-family: 宋体; mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN; mso-ascii-font-family: Cambria; mso-hansi-font-family: Cambria; mso-ascii-theme-font: major-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: major-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: major-latin"><FONT size=3>这样的译文起码有四处明显错误。正确的翻译，道歉之文应该是这样的——“由于自己在受访中的不当言行，对代言的公司品牌造成了伤害，受侮的中国人会自觉感抵制我所代言的产品，对此，我感到非常的难过和抱歉。”同时，沙狼还称，“我的错误言行，让公司蒙受了损失，为了挽回公司的经济损失，我愿意勉强参与任何关于中国地震灾害的援助活动，让中国人再次享受公司的产品。”——这是另一位网友的翻译，搞拐这里先拿来用一下。</FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-fareast-language: ZH-CN"></SPAN></P></DIV>
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